Life Lessons: When The Fog Lifts

Life Lessons: When The Fog Lifts

When people disappear from the forefront of life for an extended period of time there is usually a reason. What goes on behind the scenes at times like these is not apparent and may never become "public" knowledge. However, there does come a day when re-emergence is inevitable and a welcome relief.

Today is that day, for me.

Pain is a teacher, albeit, abrupt and seemingly brutal at times, especially when one comes to class somewhat unprepared. Although familiar with emotional and physical pain on an intimate level, the soul~cutting, faith~searing, heart~rending pain I suddenly faced was neither patient nor polite. It barged upon the scene and shoved its way past my shock and disbelief, into the deepest recesses of my spiritual experience thus far.

I was forced to go where I had never been before and ask questions that I had never had to ask.

There was more at stake than I had realized. Other people were more directly involved in this than I was. This wasn't about me.

My first instinct was to be strong and supportive. I found myself morphing into a caregiver once again. I hadn't been in that role for many years, but it just "kicked in" at the most critical moment. Like riding a bike, as they say.

My reaction was delayed for a few days. Somewhere inside I was processing the feeling of violation triggered by this uninvited "guest". There was no way I could describe it then.

Where did I go? Why did I find it so hard to reach out? Why couldn't I put it into words? I could always rely on writing when it was difficult to speak.

But the words...had abandoned me in silence. Mind~fog, like a heavy shroud, draped itself over my thoughts. It lingered for days. I retreated to deal with what was taking place.

As new information became available, there was only one thing on my mind: to make as sure as I could that hopelessness would not rob my loved ones of their faith and belief that God could take this situation and turn it around for good.

I prayed for my loved ones, and felt the continuing prayers of others. The fog began to lift, ever so slowly.

I did a lot of reading, some research, and finally was able to reach out.

The lessons are getting easier as the days go by. I have come to realize that some things are never fully learned, that there is a continual learning process in this life.

It is my hope that by sharing some of these things with you, that you will find a measure of comfort in being better prepared than I was when facing down fear, and painful life events.

Important Life Lessons:

1. Sometimes there are no words, and that's ok.

2. It's ok to ask questions, even the tough ones.

3. It's important to be yourself. Just be who you are.

4. Take it easy on yourself in difficult times.

5. Ask for help. Reach out to friends and loved ones.
Rely on your support network.

6. Establish or re~establish your spiritual connections.
Lay down your defenses and talk to God and your
spiritual counselors openly and honestly.

7. If there is something to be said, say it.
There may not be another opportunity.

8. If there is "unfinished business", something left undone,
do it as soon as you are up to it.

9. Healing comes in different forms, at different times,
and on many different levels.

10. We never walk this road alone.





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